Hey there, you guys ask for it and I delivered. In this article I’m going to talk about four text messages you can send to your spouse right now that will re spark some of the passion and romance that’s been missing from your marriage.
Yes, rekindling some of the desire and attraction can be that easy if you actually know what you’re doing.
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Now, before I get started, In this article, I have to tell you what not to text your husband or your wife. These are text messages that don’t build attraction, romance or passion. And in some cases, these common text messages can actually make your spouse feel less attracted to you.
So let’s jump into some examples of what not to text your spouse before we get into what you should be texting your spouse.
Texts to not send to your spouse:
Bad text message number one : the demanding text.
Now, it’s obviously okay to ask your spouse to do something for you. I mean, after all, you and your spouse are a team and you’re married. However, if you start demanding too much of your spouse, you could turn yourself into what I like to call a texting terrorist.
And if you want to improve your texting relationship with your spouse, then you’re going to have to give him or her enough space and not constantly send you know, a barrage of texts. It’s extremely attractive to be highly independent in a relationship. So instead of constantly asking your spouse to be your servant, try and take responsibility for things even the little things.
Bad text number two : the overcritical text message.
texts, like you’re always late or you don’t show me enough affection, you’re always watching TV. These are the kinds of texts that are just asking for disaster. Now, you always want to improve your spouse and support them. But sometimes we can show support in the wrong way. When you criticize or belittle your spouse, you aren’t encouraging them to be better.
Studies have shown that telling somebody how little value they have, will force the person to actually believe that they’re worthless. So here’s a quick tip, if you’re guilty of sending the over critical text message, if you want your spouse to improve on some aspect of their life, try using the word “i” instead of you.
So for example, instead of saying, “You’re so messy, and you’re the reason why our place is always messy” , say something along the lines of “I’d like it if this room wasn’t so messy on you” see small changes in the way you communicate with your spouse can make a massive difference in your relationship.
So keep this in mind the next time you feel like criticizing your partner for something
bad text number three : the argumentative text.
Another way you can turn yourself into what I call a texting terrorist is by constantly picking fights with your spouse through text message. Now, sometimes arguing through text can be easier than arguing in real life, but I highly recommend against it. Why?
Well, because while texting allows you time to come up with appropriate rebuttals what you say can oftentimes be misinterpreted, which could of course lead to an even bigger argument. You also don’t have the luxury of showing calming body language, which helps to keep arguments from getting out of hand.
So the next time you have an urge to bring up a sticky issue through text, don’t just wait until you have an appropriate environment to actually have that kind of serious discussion. Now, of course, this is only a handful of what I call attraction destroying text messages.
And if you want to learn more about these marriage, murdering mistakes, then head on marriageguy.com. And watch the free video presentation there on the homepage. by the way, if you can think of any other kinds of text messages that you should not be texting to your husband or wife, please use the comment section below. And let me know.
You never know maybe I’ll mention one of your examples in my next article. Now let’s move on to text messages that you should be sending to your spouse. These are text messages that are designed to spice things up and make things more interesting again, between you and your spouse.
But I do have to warn you that these text messages aren’t for all situations. So if you and your spouse are on the rocks, or you’re currently not on speaking terms, then obviously you probably shouldn’t be sending these texts right now. But if used correctly, these text messages can work wonders on your marriage.
So here’s four text messages that you can use to spice things up.
Text number one : The “imagine” text.
Texting is a great way to force the person you’re texting to use their imagination, you can make your spouse feel a myriad of emotions just by sending a few short sentences via text. And the “imagine” text is a perfect example of this. So let me just jump right into an example.
You can say something like, “I can’t wait to see you. Can you imagine how amazing it’ll feel once I wrap my arms around you tonight”. Now yes, I know that sounds really cheesy when I say this in this article. But trust me when I say that it won’t sound cheesy to your spouse.
And of course, you can tailor this text message to any sort of situation. So feel free to use your imagination with the imagine text.
Text number two, the gratitude text.
It’s so easy to take your husband or wife for granted. If you’ve been married for a long time, you can really lose sight of why you married your husband or wife to begin with. And the gratitude text is designed to make sure that your spouse knows that you appreciate him or her in a way that nobody else in the world can.
So let’s jump right into another example. You might say something like, “I may not say this as much as I should. But I need to tell you how much I appreciate you being there for me whenever I need you. It’s one of the reasons why I married you”.
And once again, you can tailor this text message to your specific situation, trying to really think of something that you honestly do appreciate about your spouse.
text number Three, the deep memory text.
Now this is a text message that is designed to force your spouse to think about an extremely memorable time in the past and relive it. forcing your spouse to focus on these nostalgic memories will cause them to feel not only more attracted to you, but will encourage them to continue making great memories with you.
So let’s jump into an example. “Do you remember when we were in Harrison when we went on that river cruise along the sin, I always remembered how amazing you looked in that blue dress”. And of course, obviously, you’ll need to tailor this text message to your current situation. But it is one of my favorite kinds of text messages because it’s so much fun to talk about fond memories with your spouse and make them relive those fun memories.
Text number four, the private text.
This one is really fun. The goal of these kinds of text messages is to have a private conversation with your spouse while you’re together at a party or a party or a social gathering to remember how fun it was to send your friends notes in high school.
Think of it kind of like that, but with your spouse. So for example, say you’re at a party and you and your spouse are both having separate conversations with other people. You might say something like that guy or girl is totally hitting on you and I don’t blame him or her. Or here’s another one, you could say, I wish we were alone right now and then put a little smiley face or something like that.
Tiny text messages like this can do wonders, and they can make your marriage feel a lot more alive. I definitely recommend sending these text messages. When it looks like your spouse isn’t having as much fun at the party. This can really cheer your spouse up.
Anyways, these text messages are just scratching the surface. If your marriage is on the rocks and you need help reviving it, then please head over marriageguy.com and watch the free video presentation on the website. In that video, you’ll learn about three psychological strategies that you can employ right now to make sure that your spouse will forever see you as their one and only.
Or even something as simple as I just wanted to say that I love you. Alright, I know, I know, it probably sounds really awkward and cheesy when I say these things in this article. But these kinds of texts really do work. And they can really help a lot in your marriage. So do yourself a favor, try one of them out, you know, or if you think that you have a good love text that you can send to your spouse, please share it in the comments below the article, I would love to hear your feedback.
And I’m sure everyone else would like another suggestion as well.
the fifth text, the attraction text.
Over time, it is normal for a marriage to sort of lose it spark and sometimes a well timed intimate text message, or in your marriage can really just inject some sexual energy that your marriage might really be needing. Now, without getting into too much detail, you know, you could say something like, “let’s make tonight all about you. Or let’s have some fun after work”, you know, wink wink and just a little winking emoji.
Or maybe this morning with so much fun. When can I do that again to you. Alright, you know clearly The possibilities here are endless. Those are just a few examples. So you know, make sure that you get a little more descriptive in whatever text you send your your spouse, but do try this out, and you’ll be thankful you did. And so your partner.
the sixth kind of text is what I like to call the humor text.
You know, laughter is often described as the most powerful aphrodisiac out there. And when you’ve been with someone for so long, often, you can kind of just forget about that. I mean, like I said, Remember, when you were first dating, and passionately in love in the honeymoon phase, you would do whatever you could to make your spouse smile and laugh.
And maybe you still do. But texting is one of the easiest ways to accomplish this. And it’s one of the best ways to do this. you just need to send them you know, even a funny picture, a meme, GIF, copy and paste, you know, your favorite joke, and send it to your spouse.
There’s even like those, you know, animated GIF keyboards that you can send your spouse and funny clips, stuff like that. Instagram and Reddit are great time wasters and resources to find funny memes that kind of thing that your spouse and you are both going to enjoy.
This kind of, you know, joking around sending this kind of message is really effective, especially when your spouse is having a tough day or a tough week or whatever. So do whatever you can, you know, just make sure you give your significant other during those times the kind of humorous love and attention that they deserve, just send them a text and make them laugh.
the last kind of text, this is probably the most important one, but only should be used in the right situation. I call it the apology text.
Now, of course, arguments and disagreements are inevitable in any marriage. But it’s how you handle your conflicts that define how strong your bond is going to be moving forward. And one of the most difficult things to do during conflict with your spouse is to apologize when you know you’re wrong.
Now, usually apologies need to happen in person ideally. But sometimes when it comes to, you know, just little arguments, sometimes a simple text can do the trick. So, you know, you could just say something like, I’m sorry, you were right last night, or I’m sorry about the night before last. Can I make it up to you later?
Or even How about, uh, you know, it was my fault we fought last night, I’ll always, you know, keep trying to make sure we have a solid understanding between you and I, I’m sorry.
Overall, I mean, apologizing in a marriage can be one of the most difficult things to do, especially if you’re really a person with a lot of pride. But you know, it takes a lot of intellectual honesty and a lot of courage to admit that you’re wrong. And this is one of the most powerful and attractive things that you can actually do in your marriage.
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