Are you worried about being in a crowd or just in contact with people you don’t know? This means that you may be suffering from social anxiety . Behind this somewhat barbaric term, hides different origins . For this, it will be necessary to do an introspection on yourself to understand the causes of this evil.
Where does social anxiety come from?
Social interaction can become a real nightmare for some of us. Being in public, eating in public, disagreeing with someone, or talking to someone who embodies authority are not natural situations for the most anxious. Worse than that, giving speeches or going for a job interview can cause an anxious state . In this case, it is not a question of shyness but of a real pathology that has developed. The person fears the attention of others, of being evaluated or misjudged. Social anxiety is named Taijin Kyofusho in Japan and Korea.
This disorder often begins in the period of adolescence (between 11 and 15 years) and its course is chronic if not taken care of. Between 50% and 80% of people who suffer from it present a psychiatric pathology : anxiety state and / or depressive episode. Genetic predispositions can be certain factors: a vulnerability that would involve several genes, including the serotonin transporter. These emotional fluctuations are increased if combined with low extraversion .
How to overcome social anxiety?
To hide the anxiety on a daily basis, many adopt safety behaviors . These are subtle avoidances in the hope of not falling into negative predictions. For example: not participating in conversations, not looking in the eyes, planning in advance what to say, wearing discreet clothes or even positioning yourself so that you can quickly exit a room.
These techniques are not positive in the long run. On the contrary, they enclose the individual even more. When things are going well, the individual thinks it is because of their “security techniques” but when things go wrong, they can rehash that moment and further weaken their own self-esteem.
A necessary support
Adults who have these kinds of anxieties have a biased view of their true skills. Thus their elusive behavior sometimes suggests a deficit when it is totally false. Assertiveness therapies , carried out with professionals, can help to learn appropriate behaviors in a social situation. These behaviors then reinforce the feeling of personal efficiency and the reduction of anxiety .
Several other techniques have demonstrated their positive effects on stress. Consider engaging in physical activity. Researchers have shown that it allows you to see the world in a less aggressive way. Also contact with animals (dogs, cats, etc.) would help fight anxiety. Finally, even if it seems difficult, going to the theater and performing on stage in public can help you to play down certain situations.
Trust yourself! Others are no better than you. Everyone has their weaknesses, and you deserve the attention you get as much as anyone else.