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How to Confront Your Cheating Spouse (Without Looking Crazy! )

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If you’re reading this article right now, then I’m really sorry
being cheated on is one of the most difficult things that anyone can go through
i know, you feel betrayed, angry, sad, maybe even worthless and depressed
But as bad as things feel right now, just know that this isn’t your fault
There’s almost no good reasons to cheat in a marriage
But now you’re obviously lost and confused, and you don’t know how to approach the situation
Well, hopefully in this article, I can give you some tips to help you navigate through this very difficult spot

today in this article, I’m going to attempt to cover how you should confront your cheating spouse
Now, I wish there was an easy answer to this question
But unfortunately, there really isn’t
I also wish I could come up with a sort of a simple three step solution like I do in most of my articles
But with something as difficult and complex as infidelity, there really is no exact blueprint
First things first, before moving forward on confronting your spouse, you need to be almost 100% sure that they are in fact cheating
I know that doing that is really difficult in a lot of cases
And again, there are no easy answers
But what you definitely do not want to do is anything that would invade your spouse’s privacy, so no hacking into their phones or emails, no following them around and no calling his or her friends to make sure they are where they say they are
A marriage should be built fundamentally on trust
And if you get caught trying to snoop around in your spouse’s life, then this trust is gonna be broken, and you’re gonna have an entirely different issue on your hands
So in order for you to be as sure as you can, here are some quick tips to help you first find out if your spouse is in fact cheating

1) is how’s your relationship declined?

Have you noticed that your spouse is becoming more distant? You know, is he or she more apt to start fights? How’s your sex life? You know, how often do you spend one on one time together? If you’ve noticed any of this kind of thing changed lately, it could be an indicator that your spouse might be interested in someone else

2) have you observed any unusual behavior in your spouse?

So one of the most telling signs that your partner is cheating on you is how they treat their phone
So you know, have you noticed them fleeing to another room to answer phone calls? Are they very secretive? When it comes to texting? When you ask them to use their phone? Do they act a little strange? If they’re freaking out about their privacy and the whole use of their phone generally, then this could be a strong indicator that they may be being unfaithful to you, or at least talking to someone that they don’t want you to know

3) watch your finances

So you know, has your spouse been spending a lot of money on something? If so, ask them about it
You know, it’s not rude or wrong to ask why your spouse has been spending so much money lately
You know, if their reasons for spending this money seem a little off, then that could be another indicator that they are cheating or doing something they don’t want you to know

4) If your spouse isn’t with with you ask where they are

Again, it is not rude to know where spouses are
Want to know where your spouse is
So write down where they are and when they are and try to sort of connect the dots, you know, is that place even open? Is he or she coming up with the same excuses all the time? You know, if you do that you might unearth some strange patterns just by asking them that one simple question
Also know that even if these four conditions are satisfied, that doesn’t necessarily mean he or she is for sure cheating on you
But you know, knowing that your spouse is behaving in a peculiar way, it may encourage you to learn a little bit more about their potential infidelities
Now, of course, there are other more drastic ways of finding out if your spouse is cheating
It’s not uncommon to hire a private investigator
But again, I feel a little weird trying to recommend this to anybody
If you are feeling desperate, then I guess this is a potential option to explore
Now, if you’re absolutely certain that your spouse is cheating on you, or you’re as sure as you possibly can be, now comes the very difficult question about what you should do about it

Before we get into it, I want to suss out what your goal should be here first
So if you do indeed find out that your spouse is cheating, do you intend to stay with him or her? Would you leave the marriage? And are you 100% certain that whatever you decide to do is the correct course of action? Well, if you’re reading this article, then I’m going to assume that you are wanting to confront your spouse about the cheating in such a way that it won’t burn any bridges

So that is exactly what I’m going to teach you today in this article
Now, I know this is going to be difficult, but First things first, I really do recommend that you approach the whole situation with a calm mindset
Now, I know that’s easier said than done
But you need to know that your spouse when confronted is probably going to act angry, defensive and emotional at first
They’re probably going to try to lie deny the infidelity and tell that you that you’re being crazy
And you have to be ready for this kind of reaction and not try to escalate the situation any further
Instead know exactly What you’re going to say before entering the conversation and expect a fire response in return, I also recommend talking in a non accusatory tone of voice when speaking to your spouse

Because really, you know, as much evidence as you may have, there is always a chance that there’s just a misunderstanding
So speak to your spouse, as if all you want to know is the truth
Don’t be overly aggressive
Don’t yell, and don’t lash out and say things that you’re later going to regret
Do your best to keep your body language, your voice and your emotions in check
Of course, if you absolutely want to nail your spouse on this, it’s better to approach the situation in a more roundabout way
Because right now you have the upper hand, you know that something might be up
So instead of straight up accusing your spouse directly, trying to ask questions to force them to lie about something
So because once your spouse knows that you’re on to them, they’re going to take extra steps to conceal their behavior
And eventually, if they’re sneaky enough, they’ll be able to cover their infidelity completely
And you may never know the truth
So you know, instead of jumping in with two feet, it is best to go both things strategically
So for example, if your spouse said that they were at this at a pub last night, and you have a sneaking suspicion that they weren’t actually there, then ask them which pub they went to, then tell them that your best friend was also at the same pub last night as well

And then you know, observe how your spouse reacts, do they panic, or they calm? If you do catch them in a lie, this is the time where you can pounce and calmly you know, accuse them of cheating
But if you are unsure, then continue probing them and don’t take the risk of being wrong over a long period of time
You can also ask them the same questions over and over and see if they change their answers
So for example, if you’re staying long hours after work, keep asking them why they’re staying at the office late and keep doing this, you know, once or twice a week, and make note of what they say, you know, liars tend to give long drawn out explanations to conceal the truth

Often their reasons, explanations may be inconsistent, or just flat out illogical
And over time, if you keep doing this, you’re gonna be able to build a stronger case
And then you can finally accuse them once you have enough evidence of cheating on you

And finally, once you’ve built your case, calmly present them with the reasons why you know they’re cheating
Again, like I said, at the beginning of this article, remember that they are going to lash out in anger at you and deny everything instead of responding and kind of just show them the evidence
And once you both calmed down a little bit, then you can talk to your spouse about why he or she cheated
And if it’s worth salvaging the relationship

If your goal is to eventually fix the marriage, then the best way to recover and get over this ordeal is to ask all the questions that you need to ask
Really, you need to know why it happened
And you need to calmly talk about how to prevent this from ever happening to you again
Now, of course, this may not be an option and you may very well indeed choose to end the marriage
Whatever you decide, Think long and hard on what you want to do

And I will say this, nobody deserves to be cheated on twice
Again, there is no surefire way to approach the situation
But the most important thing is that you know the truth

If you guys do need additional help on what you can do in this situation, and if you want to learn how you can make your marriage cheat proof in the future, head on over to and watch the free video there
Alright, we’re gonna keep this article short
Thank you so much for reading and if you’re in this situation, I wish you all the best of luck bye for now

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