Are you in a sexless marriage?
Well, today in this article, I’m going to do a super article here on how to navigate through this very frustrating problem. So if you do find yourself in this situation in your marriage, you’re not alone. There are a ton of sexless marriages out there.
In fact, some couples therapists claim that up to 230 percent of marriages are sexless. But lucky for you, there are some strategies that you can use right now to to reignite that spark that you had with your spouse.
Now, first, before we move on, we really need to to determine, you know how much sex is enough for you. Really, every person is different, and everyone has sort of their number that’s going to keep them happy in their marriage.
A University of Toronto study recently found that that sex once a week, led to two more intimate and loving marriages, any more than that than once a week didn’t really have much further impact on the happiness of the marriage. But anything less than once a week around there led to a significant decline in marital happiness in many couples. So how do we fix this problem, I’m going to try and break it down here into a few short tips.
Number one ♥
Communicate with your spouse, you really don’t want to turn this into an argument because that’s just going to push your spouse further away. But you will want to approach the topic in a loving and caring way.
Yes, it may feel a little awkward, but it is important to let your spouse know that this is a concern that you have in the marriage.
Number two ♥
make sex a priority. If you want to bring that intimacy back and have sex again, then it has to be on both of your minds moving forward. Even if you have you know really busy lives in general. And that means often setting aside time for you and your partner to relax and to enjoy each other again, in a quiet and intimate setting.
Number three ♥
Escalates slowly, you know, you don’t want to try and jump into sex right away, after bringing it up. You don’t want sex to feel like work or a service, you want to have sex because really both of you actually want to be intimate.
Now you can graduate to to sex soon, of course. But initially, you know, for now, maybe just let your partner know that you want to kiss him or tonight. And that’s it. No pressure to do anything more. Because sex should always feel natural and be fun.
And that does bring me to;
number four ♥
Which is to try and have fun. Now, really, that’s the whole point of sex. So it’s time to ask your spouse you know, what would turn them on? Do they have any desires or fetishes they want to experiment with now is really a great time to explore and to get your note to know your spouse in the most intimate ways without judgment.
So you know, plan, plan fun plant, play dates, maybe go sex toy shopping together and be a little adventurous. Again, let your partner know that there’s no pressure to have sex at any point or to do anything in particular.
Number five ♥
Stop watching porn. Now studies have shown that porn does have negative effects on site sexual psychology.
In fact, I know some men for example, who can’t even achieve an erection with their spouse unless they actually watch porn beforehand. So cutting out porn from your lives is going to increase your desire to have sex with one another.
Number six ♥
Is sort of along the same lines, which is basically just stop pleasuring yourself. So often. This one’s pretty self explanatory, but sometimes it can be easier said than done. But essentially, you know, lowering the frequency of masturbation or cutting it out entirely, is going to help you and your spouse get back into the sack.
Number seven ♥
Workout. You know, keeping fit is not only going to help you look better and be more you know, sexually attractive to your partner. But it will also release hormones that will make your you want to, you know, bang your partner’s brains out. So you know, do plan some couples activities that involve exercise and make sure you hit the gym regularly.
Number eight ♥
Don’t put any undue pressure on your spouse to achieve some sort of you know, sexual goal. If you have sex with your partner and one of you doesn’t finish, you know, that shouldn’t be a big deal. Putting sex on the pedestal can make it even more difficult to to get back into the thick of things. So just try to relax and have fun with no expectations.
Number nine ♥
Maybe it’s medical, you know, erectile dysfunction and other sorts of sexual elements have a compounding effects on one’s desire to have sex generally. So do seek help from a doctor if you think that might be the case for you.
Number ten ♥
Look at other parts of your relationship. If both you and your partner you know if you both have stopped having sex, that could actually be an indicator that there’s other underlying problems with your relationship. And of course, if you do think that the problem runs deeper than just sex, then consider watching my articles presentation on my firstname.lastname@example.org. I promise you’ll be glad you did. You’ll learn a lot. Okay. Thank you very much for reading my article.